Im having trouble finding my Own Style

The problem is I don't know what my style is... I grew up in the grunge age wearing baggy jean 10 sizes to big and extra large t-shirts to match. Then I went to high school and turned to American Eagle and Abercromie (when i could afford it) to show me style, otherwise Old Navy or Mandy's would have to do. Now at 21, I am a New Yorker, I buy New Yorker things and shop at Urban Outfitters, H &M, and Warehouse of London. But, I really have no clue what I am doing. I think every thing is me, then I buy it, find it unpractical and wear it some of the time (thus, acquiring more clothes than god). I want to show how wild and passionate I am through my clothes and then I end up wearing jeans and a t-shirt. But, today, I felt fashionable. I was browsing through Urban for practicle and wearable items that may match things that I already own (another common problem, they look good on the rack and then you have nothing to wear with it) and the sales guy came up to me and ask me if those "were one of ours". Those meaning the beaded leather shoes I write about last week. And no they were not there's. He told me that they are gonig to start selling them and wanted to know how I got an advanced pair. Good news.. I felt fashionable. Bad news... in three months every one is going to have over priced versions of my greatest find.

Today I read this article in the Fashion and Style section of the Times:It's My Style and I'm Sticking to It!

With few rules left to govern it, and self-discipline an old-hat concept, fashion now encourages people to assume an identity without actually having one of their own. Young women seem most susceptible to this form of identity theft, to judge by the number who participate in reality shows that involve a scalpel and the promise of Britney Spears's chin. But the reluctance to create an original and distinctive look, one that gives a face to personality, isn't limited to young women. Fashion designers are also losing their identities, that thread of continuity that runs through their collections. To ask who Marc Jacobs is this season is to ask which famous designer or artist recently captured his attention...

Ms. Collins suggests that the test of an identifiable look — one that is, in effect, a stamp — is whether it can be easily drawn, even as a caricature. "These girls today — imagine an artist having to draw them," she said, drawing a circle in the air with her finger, presumably the head of a stick figure.

Yet many young women are realizing, on their own, that style equals identity. "I'm a black woman who is a size 10 in a business where everyone is white and a size 4, at the biggest," said Beverly Smith, 37, the director of fashion advertising for Rolling Stone, who describes her style as "uptown glamorous" — Harlem by way of Pucci and Dolce & Gabbana. "I get really noticed."

Rita Konig, a London-based writer, observed, "If you're not naturally beautiful, then you have to be more clever." For Ms. Konig, 30, that means waisted dresses and the tweedy styles, especially from Prada and Miu Miu, that remind her of her grandmother's wardrobe. Indeed, she is so drawn to the elegance of the 1950's that she would "literally wear a hat and gloves if it didn't make me look like a twit."

It's not that I need to get noticed... but it's hard not to look plain. Every one and everything in New York is so over the top. Even when you try not to be plain.. you still are. I think I'm going to stop trying. I think that's that point to fashion and style. To look like yourself with some help from local stores and culture. Maybe some day I'll get this whole style thing. And i'm sure it will be two days before I have to switch to wearing suits.